Lately, I have felt stuck. I know that all of us have felt this from time to time. It's starting to get better, but I have felt that I haven't been moving at all. I shouldn't be feeling this emotion because I have actually started making quite a few changes in my life. So, let's examine why we sometimes feel stuck and what we can do to change this.
Why do people feel stuck? Another way to say that you feel stuck is that you have been in a "funk". No matter how you say it, it all comes down to the same feeling. Sometimes people feel stuck when they are unable to see the changes that are happening in their lives. Change affects each person everyday. The experience can come in the form of a small gesture or a large plan. In any case, change DOES happen each day. Some changes are ambiguous; they are open to several different paths. When you are in control of the change, you feel like things are going according to plan. When you cannot control the changes that happen, that can cause a person to feel stuck.
Sometimes the feeling is brought upon by lack of satisfaction in one's life. Being a lover of words, I decided to find the meaning of the word "satisfy". The definition of satisfy is to fulfill the desires, expectations, needs, or demands of (a person, the mind, etc.); give full contentment to. In summary, satisfy means to fulfill expectations.
I have quite a few expectations, but am I focusing on attainable expectations? What are my expectations throughout the day? Sometimes I wake up and EXPECT the day to be melancholy. While I am working, I expect to just finish the day and go on with what I need to do after work. Maybe I am creating the wrong expectations. I have a choice to create whatever expectation I want. Maybe I can change my day by focusing on the task at hand, instead of worrying about my expectations. Maybe I can start to feel satisfied with my life if I find satisfying tasks.
Things can get better, and I expect them to. But I know that it will not be an easy road to find satisfaction. There will always be something that I think can be done better. But I need to step back and realize the satisfaction I have with the situation I am in. There are so many things I am thankful for. I have a home and a wonderful, supportive family. I have stability and all my needs are met. My children are growing well and my relationships with them are solid. I think that by counting my blessings I can find the satisfaction I already have and maybe even a little more.
Mona
“What I am looking for is not out there, it is in me.”
― Helen Keller
